What advice would you give to someone becoming a caregiver for the first time?

While in Stevenage researching how care needs shape people’s lives, Anna-Marie bumped into Molly and Shawna.

Molly, a former nurse, spoke openly about looking after her mum in her final days. Shawna shared what it’s been like moving through the healthcare system, and how it’s shaped her sense of self. The conversation touched on loneliness, resilience, and what it really means to show up for others — and for yourself.

What advice would you give to someone becoming a caregiver for the first time?

Molly: "Don't be afraid. Embrace it and get as much support as you can. Don't try to do it on your own. Get help from healthcare agencies, talk to people who've done it before. Remember, many caregivers feel isolated, but you're not alone. Seek the support you need"

What was your experience like caring for a loved one?

Molly: I looked after my mum when she was dying of cancer. Because I was a nurse, I found it to be a privilege and an honour. I think more people should be less afraid to do it. People are scared of what they don't know but I would definitely tell people to care for their loved ones, because you have to remember that they looked after you, and now it's your turn to do the same. I feel like there's too much 'me, me, me' in society today, and people aren't interested in their families anymore.

When you're caring for a loved one, it's different from being a professional nurse. You have a personal relationship, and it's a deeply meaningful experience. It's not just a job - it's about showing love and gratitude to those who cared for you."